I am writing this post in regards to the readers I’ve pissed off over the few years of this blog’s existence on the web. The hate email can keep coming in, it may be read or it may not, either way it’s going straight in the trash and I’m gonna keep the blogs and conversations moving.
First to my readers who have appreciated the Black Women Are Beautiful Theory and could relate, Thank you. Thank you for reading my posts and for your comments. Even those who didn’t leave a comment but read the posts and could relate to the discussions, Thank you. To those who support my blog by subscribing or sharing the posts with other like-minded people, thank you. Much love to each in every one of you.
Second, to the people I pissed off let me get something straight, right now… If you feel left out because I didn’t speak about the hardships that the Irish people face and their ancestors who suffered slavery, then YOU write a blog about that. I am not “responsible” for writing about the hardships of the Irish people. I am only “responsible” for writing about the concerns of my people, those of African descent and what we faced and continue to face.
Those who preach, “It’s not a Black and White Issue”, “I thought we were past this issue” and the classic, “We may be of different complexions but when we bleed, our blood is red” I get all that, understand all that, but it don’t change the challenges nor the experiences those different people who bleeds red experiences still have to fight through. Again, I am not responsible for writing a blog on that either.
For those of you who are of African descent and shout “Why Black people have to make it a racial thing? Can‘t we all just get along?” I am not responsible for writing a blog on those views either. Perhaps you might have been among the very few privileged blacks who have not had the burden of wrestling with who you are and what you are. If you who are of color has never experienced any hints of racial negativity then good for you, consider yourself blessed. Don’t piss yourself off by reading this blog, it wasn’t written for you. If you feel adamantly against my blog, then YOU have to create YOUR OWN BLOG that speaks to those issues of YOUR heart and beliefs. This is not my responsibility to do at this point in my time. Maybe later on who knows, but as FOR NOW my only responsibility and concern is tackling the biased issues that makes most Black women struggle with themselves and their relationships from a PSYCHOLOGICAL perspective. Some Black folks will appreciate it, some will despise it. That is not my worry nor my problem. You can’t make everyone happy all of the time, even your own culture of people. I’ll live.
For those of you who contest, “What about the gay and lesbians who struggle with issues of identity, acceptance and worth?” Again, that is not my responsibility or my purpose of this blog. If you feel my blog is being exclusive of your rights and struggles gay or lesbian people then again, it is up to YOU to create YOUR OWN blog that address those issues and caters to the needs of YOUR community.
The ONLY purpose my blog has is to EDUCATE, HEAL and ELEVATE the BEAUTY OF BLACK WOMEN. I only care about debunking the “Angry Black Woman” myth by helping to expose the roots of the problem as well as the solutions. I am only responsible for writing what I know about, which is the misfortunes that psychologically impairs the minds of Black people, especially Black women.
I am NOT dismissing ANY of your plights. All mistreatment of any person of any kind is an unfortunate situation, but the only thing I can do is build MY house in MY community FIRST before I even attempt to try to build other people’s houses in other people’s communities.
I am looking to not only shed light on the causes for the dilemmas of Black women, but to help contribute some solutions. I’m not some Black extremist looking to cause any kind of militia groups and attack people. I’m not a communist, racist, or any of those things. If YOU think I am then that’s YOUR problem, NOT MINE. All I’m doing is catering to a much neglected issues that MOST BLACK WOMEN (INCLUDING MYSELF) face, hostility we give to one another, hostility from the men we love, hostility from Corporate America, hostility from many (not all) non blacks period. I’m looking to help Black women rediscover themselves and re-parent themselves so that they can release the anger and any other negative behavior that makes it so hard for them to deal with other people without feeling like they have to get defensive or for some, desperate.
The Black Women Are Beautiful Theory (now renamed as The Black Women Are Beautiful Movement) was created for personal reasons. Much of what I’ve written on here came from my personal experiences or that of those near and dear to me. I created this blog for myself, the women in my family, and those in my ancestral line who I never met, but heard their life stories. I also created this blog for those who also had similar struggles and, like me, have not found the right type of information or person to help them tackle those issues head on. I firmly believe that with understanding and education, women of color can better understand themselves and the source of their anger and depression. Once they come to terms with the source, they can then cross that bridge to the solutions, so they can heal themselves and become better mothers, wives, girlfriends and children. To accomplish that, a lot of undesirable things have to put on the table and dealt with… that including history because history plays a major role in how we function as an individual.
A large part of our identity and behavioral habits are inherited from our ancestors. This is why our biggest challenge as Black women and Black men is one of a psychological factor. Freedom is there for us physically, but mentally, many of us are still struggling in bondage.
Our world has changed dramatically. The younger generations have the fortune of being reared in a very culturally diverse and (for the most part) tolerant society. However, there is still a large demographics who still have not moved past old issues that seem to keep them from fully enjoying life in this more culturally diverse society. However, there are many places where there are Blacks against blacks, Latino’s against Blacks, Light Latinos against dark Latinos, Blacks from Africa against Blacks in America, Caribbean’s against Blacks, Black Portuguese (such as Cape Verdeans, Brazilians, etc.) against White Portuguese. Regardless of age or location, there is still this issue of race and class that continues to keep people of color psychologically crippled.
With that being said, I do have only ONE apology to make, and that IS to any of my readers who are Latina, Brazilian, Biracial- anyone who has lived parts of the African diaspora in other places of the world. Whether you live in the Americas, The Caribbean, Europe- or anywhere in the world. I appreciate your readership and encourage you to share YOUR stories because that help others to see that it is a global situation. It also helps me to learn more about how the issues of color, race and social status impacts your life from where you are.
I’ve spent the last two years studying race and racial relations in the communities abroad and I had no idea, there was such a heated animosity between other cultures. One of those is examples is the decades long battle between the Dominicans and the Puerto Ricans. One of those arguments I observed between them in both Spanish and English is who is more superior in race based on who has more African in their blood verses who has more European in their blood verses who has more Indigenous (Native American) in their blood. Being self-taught in both the Spanish, Portuguese languages and French languages, I’ve observed these arguments are similar in almost ever discussion. Therefore I continue to study, interview and learn from these cultures and add their plight with the plight of African-Americans in regards to how race and class impairs their psychological well-being. These discussions help bring an awareness that this is not only a United States issue, but it’s a global issue.
To sum it all up one more time, if any of you feel my blog is too one-sided then YOU create YOUR OWN blog and write about the things YOU feel so passionately for or against. There is a market for everyone as well as a cause. You just have to find your place like I‘ve found mine.
If any of you who oppose what I write yet continues to visit my blog and read my postings, then either you’re intrigued, looking to provoke something, or you just enjoy thoroughly pissing yourself off for no apparent reason.
By the way, you can keep call me all the nigger, bitch, jungle bunny, tar baby, blackie or any other racially/sexually offensive name you want to call me in your comments and emails… Your display of ignorance only proves my point that race and class is still very much an issue in this day and age. Not much changed.
Say what you will and KNOW I’m not the LEAST bit afraid or intimidated by any one of you or your comments. And if any of you haters THINK for one minute I’m going to close down this blog and cease writing about race relations because I pissed you off, then dream on, I ain’t going NO WHERE. The only way this blog cease and desist is if WordPress themselves shuts it down. And if they do then I will just simply take my work to another blog site and post it there, create a web domain, write more books on the subject, etc., etc. So it doesn’t begin here and it most certainly will not end here.
Lastly, African descent or not, those who want what I have to offer on this page can take of it and blossom from it. Those who don’t want what I have to offer can just wave it off and keep it moving. It’s all good one way or another. I’ll keep writing and have a GOOD NIGHTS REST regardless.
That’s all I have to say about this situation and will not be bother to devote any more of my precious time addressing ignorant and the hypocritical who write me in the future. Keep writing your remarks behind the safety of your little computer and I will keep writing what’s important to me while deleting what’s unimportant. For further reference, read the First Amendment… you know, the one that speaks about “FREEDOM OF SPEECH, EXPRESSION, AND PRESS”.
I’ve said it. I’m done. Now I’m keeping it moving…
Arose N Daghetto
a.k.a A BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMAN